10 Signs That Your Relationship Is/Might Be Falling Apart

We all fall in love with a significant other, or sometimes have amazingly close friendships that can be stated as being very similar to marriage, but often, these relationships or friendships fall apart. It doesn’t matter what your friendship is built on; whether it is built on business, cooperation, teamwork, or even lust for one-another, there is always a chance that it will fall apart.

Here are 10 signs your relationship might not be working out… Not in any order.

1: Disagreements break out into arguments.

Disagreeing is a part of life, and positive debates and arguments are the better part of a healthy relationship that allows you to learn of and bond with your other. In this scenario, I’m talking about flat-out yelling, screaming, and tantrum explosions. Where there are really no arguments rather than attempts at one-sided force or driving the other away.

2: The thought of them or their presence brings a negative feeling.

This one is pretty extreme but it does happen. Simply the sight of them entering the room is enough to lower your mood and depress you; this also goes hand in hand with any thought of them lowers your mood. If there is enough conflict and negativity, this is a definite possibility.

3: You don’t understand each other

Mystery is a good thing between people. Sometimes you don’t know why someone does something, but surprises are good though! This negative type of misunderstanding that I’m warning you of comes from not being in tune with your partner. Usually, you can tell what your partner will do next, with the exception of major surprise. The more your partner feels like a stranger, the greater the chance of there not being a relationship.

4: You don’t feel like making the effort for each other.

Think of your friend or your partner. Would you make a sandwich for them? How about taking them out to dinner? How about drive them 30 minutes to their work? … Although these are all increasing in “Difficulty” you probably would do 2 or all of them for a friend or your love, at least once. All of these require effort. If you don’t want to do it for them… or anything at all. Then your relationship might be having some major problems.

5: There is a long time of silence.

Every day doesn’t have to be filled with amazing things. There will be hard patches with lots of darkness and a few bright lights in the middle. But when it continues to be darkness with no lights generated by either member for a very long time… There might be a problem.

6: You stop caring

This goes hand in hand with 5 and 4. You don’t think of your friend or love anymore… More importantly, when they come to mind, it doesn’t elicit any emotion or extra thoughts about them.

7: Things become very one sided.

This is a major breaker in many relationships. This usually involves one side of the party controlling all lines of communications and actions. A controlling partner that throws tantrums or loudly panics while not allowing anything you say or do to change his/her mind or put his/her mind at ease. If it continues to get worse over time, it might be time to break… You can’t change that.

8: You feel a constant “Disconnect”

This one is a little hard to explain. You know your close friends or your partner and there is a strange “unity” or pattern that keeps you together. When you feel this slip away or disappear all-together it may be time to re-think and figure out where it went.

9: The positive “Used to” count is increasing

“Used to” Refers to beneficial actions one partner or friend does to or for another. Whether it’s that sudden hug or a light kiss, maybe an inside joke; something that makes you happier, eases, or connects the two of you. There are negative “Used to-s” as well, but you want to eliminate or learn to get rid of them for the benefit of the two of you.

10: There is no evolution.

No. I’m not talking of Darwin’s Evolution. All relationships “evolve” where both partners adapt to new things from inside problems to outside problems and work together to defeat everything. If things aren’t changing or evolving for the better, prepare for something to happen. There are some rare-cases where adaptation will never have to happen… but these are extremely rare.

Remember. There is no ultimate end. Everything can be fixed or broken, it all depends on your actions and the effort you put into it. To all of you I wish good luck. If there is anything I got wrong or if you have a differing opinion, let me know in the comments below. Thank you and good luck to you all :D